Know before you judge me

I can't be what everyone wants. I can't carry the load for everyone because they fall short. I want to be happy. If being with him makes me happy, even if temporarily should I pass it up cause no one else agrees or thinks its morally wrong? Who are you to judge me?

Mother of the year I definitely won't get. No one teaches you how to balance work, kids, home and happiness. There is no right owners manual and you need to try new things constantly to see if they work. Unless you have lived for many years and gone through various life phases, you just don't know. We all make decisions based on where we are at the time. They may not be the right ones in the long run, but they are ours and we must own them.

Every child is different and can't be raised in the same way. Parents divorce, new people come into their lives, housing situations change. We can only do so much, especially when they reach an age when they want you around but not bother them. Sitting and waiting for someone to need me then jumping when they bellow is not my idea of happiness.

Suzie homemaker I am not. Been there done that. Basing my needs and happiness on the needs and happiness levels of my children's momentary wants isn't doing anyone any good. I love my children but it doesn't give them the right to tell me how I should or shouldn't run my life. It doesn't give them the right to disrespect me cause they don't understand the big picture.

Life unfolds in little pieces. You don't get the big picture all at once. There are many sides to people and those too change constantly.